#it’s such a toxic mindset

[mythtakens]

“these characters should be mentally healthy before they get together 😌” ummm no I actually think we should smash their mental illnesses together like clumps of play-doh and see what colors it makes

[ickypuppi3]

something deeply ironic about the fact this used to be my mindset about the people around me vs myself before i got help and was subsequently the reason i refused to go to therapy for so long

i fucking love willel so much because they're the perfect antithesis to certain characters like billy. here we're shown people who can love deeply and care unsparingly and not lash out at other because of their own problems. we're shown people who have so much trauma and have trouble seeing the world as it really is and have trouble processing what everything means, but still manage to be sincere and loving and just try their absolute goddamn best to be better and do better than the people who made them this way. and they're stronger for that, for trying and being good. it's like a fuck you to the people who never tried for them. it's better than giving up and succumbing to lashing out because you don't process your feelings. it's better than causing someone else pain because you don't know how to manage yours.

[sk-lumen]

If you're not treated right, your first response should not be "let me prove how valuable I actually am, they just don't see it yet". That mindset is toxic and you're going about it the wrong way. Instead, your response should be "they don't see my value, that's on them. Clearly, we don't resonate. I have nothing to prove. Time to replace them with something/someone who does". Your response should be walking away from anything that is not nourishing your spirit.

[theambitiouswoman]

How to cleanse your body of negative energy 🪐✨

Meditate: Take a few minutes to sit quietly, breathe deeply, and just let go of all the junk cluttering your mind.

Move Your Body: The gym, pilates, yoga, a walk, or even dancing in your room, moving your body can lift your spirits.

Nature: Go outside! A walk in the park, a hike, or just sit by the water. The water has natural healing properties.

Be Present: Do things that make you focus on the now. Try deep breathing, write in a journal, or practice a hobby you enjoy.

Smudge It Out: Use sage or palo santo to cleanse your space and yourself.

Crystals: Keep crystals like black tourmaline or amethyst with you. They soak up negative energy and bring in the good stuff.

Sound Vibrations: Listen to 528Hz frequency music, chanting, or use singing bowls to create positive energy through sound.

Salt Bath: Take a bath with sea salt or Epsom salts to detox and relax. Drinking lots of water helps too!

Positive Self Talk: Say positive affirmations to yourself every day. It’s like reprogramming your brain to think happy thoughts.

Sleep: Make sure you’re getting enough sleep. It’s super important for recharging your body and mind.

[alieninthedisco]

don't normally do loads of detailed linework it feels weird.....

[succulentsiren]

Not taking anything personally is the key to remaining unbothered and confident.

When somebody is disrespectful towards you, it’s about their insecurities, not you.

Learn to let their comments roll off of you, like oil in water. Don’t absorb their toxicity. Treat these toxic situations like a test to your inner strength and character. Stay solid, assertive and unfazed. Let them know that no one can break your character.

[sugarsprinklesoul]

Stop doing these things to become your best self

Holding onto habits out of comfort. Your bad habits are stripping you from the life you want.

Hiding from vulnerability. Vulnerability is a strength. it makes you authentic. do not hide it just because the wrong people can't appreciate it.

Letting others guide your life. Live your life on your own settings. Only you know your own reality.

Chasing after people who are running. You're wasting your time and energy. once you stop chasing, the right people will simply find you.

Blaming others. You control your actions and reactions. choose to find happiness.

[odinsblog]

I know you’ve heard about Harrison Butker by now, and his embarrassment of a commencement speech at Benedictine College. You’ve probably seen the NFL kicker roasted six ways from Sunday for his misogyny, hypocrisy, and regressive nonsense. People have already written about his stupidity, everyone has memed his nonsense, and conservatives have applauded him for advocating for a return to the 1950s. That is exactly what he was doing, unashamedly. Butker delivered countless awful lines, saying, “Things like abortion, IVF, surrogacy, euthanasia, as well as a growing support for degenerate cultural values in media, all stem from the pervasiveness of disorder.” Which is an ugly mix of law and order rhetoric and sexism, a mix that makes no logical sense but scratches a certain itch in the mind of his conservative audience.

I just want to briefly add to the criticism of this Super Bowl winner, who will probably run for office before too long. Specifically, I want to highlight the inane variety of patriarchal bullshit running through his speech, and his apparent approach to the world. Butker and men like him are trying to sell us a load of hot garbage, and get men to be the worst version of themselves. They’re trying to make us see ourselves as victims, and encouraging us to use that false belief as fuel to go out and hurt other people. We can and should reject that directive.

We should reject it for countless reasons, but I think the place to start is to look at this guy telling us we’ve been oppressed by society and so we should stand up and be real men and tell women to be homemakers. He makes four million dollars a year to kick a ball, he’s won the Super Bowl, and he’s still a miserable person pretending to be a victim. All that wealth, all the success, and he’s going to speak at a college to tell young women, “I would venture to guess that the majority of you are most excited about your marriage and the children you will bring into this world.”

As they’re graduating college to go out into the world, he’s telling them to stay home and be mothers. He’s theoretically reached the American dream, and he’s spending his time telling college girls to be “homemakers.”

Oh and in the days since his speech it’s come out that his mom is an accomplished physicist. But nevertheless.

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[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: How To Learn To Love Yourself & Heal From Toxic People

Allow yourself to feel all your emotions and thoughts, authentically and without self-criticism or judgment: Acknowledge that you're grieving. Accept that you need to mourn your loss. Even if it is better to move on in life without these people, it is healthy and completely valid to grieve the relationships you had with these people – regardless of whether they were one-sided, deluded, or otherwise toxic. Allow yourself to cry, be angry, lie in bed, etc. Hit a pillow, sleep in all day on a weekend, or wear a set of pajamas for a WFH day. Give yourself permission to engage in self-soothing behaviors without any type of self-harm or self-sabotage.

Rest, relax, and pamper yourself in your leisure time: Spend time taking it easy – reading, watching TV, doing a face mask or another indulgent skin treatment, using a body massager, cooking dinner in a silk robe and slippers, lighting a candle, cozying up in a blanket, etc. Allow yourself to feel at peace. Create a sanctuary in your space.

Take time for introspection and self-discovery: Being in any type of relationship with toxic people is draining and can cause you to feel as though you've lost a part of yourself by trying to make the relationship succeed. Now, it's time to reclaim yourself after you've courageously cut out these toxic people from your life. Consider and honor your deepest desires, values, interests, hobbies, lifestyle, goals, aesthetic, food, sexual, entertainment preferences, etc. Go on a self-discovery journey to figure out who you really are, what you believe, and who you will work to become as you enter this new, exciting chapter of your life.

Journal, read, eat healthily, work out, drink plenty of water, and sleep: Go back to the basic healthy habits. Try to journal for at least 5-10 minutes a day (using a 5-minute journal, morning pages [writing 3 pages of stream-of-conscious thoughts first thing in the morning], journal or shadow work prompts), make 2-3 whole food, plant-based meals with carbs, veggies, fruits, proteins, and healthy fats, find some ways to incorporate movement into your day – 30-minute walk or yoga session is enough if that's all you can manage consistently, have your body weight in ounces of water daily, and sleep for around 7-8 hours a night. Do some inner child healing by taking care of your core needs.

Indulge in all of your favorites: There's a lot of fun you can have when you have total freedom regarding your daily activities and choices. Give yourself permission to enjoy this solitude. Wear your favorite outfits every day (occasion-appropriate options, of course), including pajamas, loungewear, lingerie, and accessories. Make your favorite meals and snacks throughout the week (incorporating some healthy options in there to feel your best – I love a good oatmeal bowl, frozen grapes, baked Japanese sweet potato, or a hummus and vegetable plate). Watch your favorite TV shows or movies. Indulge in a glass of wine you love or reread a favorite book. Create a masterful playlist. Plan a day of your favorite activities (a long walk, getting a coffee, indulging in a spa day, going to a farmer's market, going to a yoga class, etc.) Treat yourself like your own best friend.

Get comfortable doing things alone: Honestly, no one cares or is paying attention to if you're doing activities alone or with someone else. If someone shows too much interest in your solitude, they're probably projecting their own insecurities regarding their perceived social ridicule. Take yourself shopping, to the nail salon, out for a meal, to the movies, etc. alone. Personally, I love doing most of these things alone anyways. Running errands alone gives you some space to clear your mind and think freely.

Define what an ideal social life and/or relationship looks like for you: Once you've become comfortable with yourself and living life on your own terms, it's time to embrace your desire for human connection and socialization. Consider the types of people you want in your life – their values, personalities, interests, goals, favorite activities, relational boundaries, etc., and where/when/how often you want to interact with them.

Create an action plan: Reconnect with the people in your life who continue to show up for you and have been a light through these toxic relationships and their lasting effects over the months or years. Decide on the places, groups, and ways you'll reach out/try to meet these people. Figure out how to expand your network, and make new connections. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there. You won't vibe with everyone you meet, but it is worthwhile to engage in small talk with several strangers if even one of these new faces, later on, becomes a good friend or acquaintance. A varied social circle is a great way to enrich your life.

Take small steps, then strides: Be gentle on yourself throughout this entire process. It is perfectly okay to take one day at a time during the grieving process. Everyone's healing journey will look different and evolve at a different pace. Don't let these toxic people remain in your heart, mind, and spirit. Remember that you deserve love, kindness, happiness, success, peace, and patience.

[spop-romanticizes-abuse]

really? because let me remind you that catra never treated adora as a peer or a partner. she constantly belittled adora, she was jealous of adora, she was insanely possessive of adora. how can you expect someone to treat you a certain way if you don't treat them the same way?

if i said “i wish people were kind to me” while treating everyone around me like shit, i would be a hypocrite. and that's what catra is too. not that this is explicitly mentioned in canon, but catra expects a lot out of adora while continuously hurting adora.

she expects adora to keep their promise, but catra herself never bothered to keep it. in fact, the only time she even mentions wanting to keep her side of the promise is IN THE FINALE. towards the very end, where adora was basically dying!! and that's after catra abandoned adora because adora didn't give her the assurance that she expected.

not to mention, catra is the one who kept feeding into adora's hero complex and her guilt, by calling adora a failure and constantly keeping her responsible for not being able to protect the people she loved.

so yeah. another post victim-blaming adora for what happened and acting like catra's actions were justified.

[littlefankingdom]

~ Batman (2016)

Whoever made the choice to have Bruce said "my son" instead of "my sonS" should be fired immediately. No way would he not refer to, at least, Dick as his son too. Jason is literally his first son, he was Bruce's son 30 years before Damian existed. It was made very clear in Injustice that Damian being biological doesn't make him more of a son to Bruce than the others.

[spitblaze]

There is a time and a place for being a hater and kvetching and failing to recognize this makes you an asshole for sure, but conversely saying that the time and place for that is 'never' and 'nowhere' also makes you an asshole

[hypnoticpo1s0n]

It's pathetic.

I really love making these toxic motivation stuff 😭. Disclaimer- rude af.

It's pathetic how you keep wanting to glow up without doing anything.

It's pathetic how you complain about having bad grades and doing bad in school when you don't do anything.

It's pathetic how you still complain about not being able to tap into the void state. That's like the easiest shit ever.

It's pathetic how you can't even manifest your dream life.

Manifesting is like the easiest shit ever, and you can't even do that?

All you need to do is monitor your thoughts. You can't even do that? Pathetic.

<3

[theambitiouswoman]

Loving yourself is essential for having good relationships with others and living a fulfilling life.

When you focus on finding love from others instead of loving yourself, it can cause problems. You may feel unsure about yourself and depend on others to feel good. This can lead to bad relationships where you accept mistreatment because you're afraid of being alone. It can also make your emotions unstable because your happiness depends on what others think of you. You might forget who you really are and have trouble setting boundaries. Others might see you as too needy, and you may feel disappointed when people don't give you the love you want. Not loving yourself can hold you back from growing and trying new things.

But if you choose to love yourself first, you'll benefit in many ways. You'll become more confident and believe in yourself. You'll have healthier relationships because you'll know what you deserve and set limits. You'll handle tough times better and become stronger emotionally. When you love and accept yourself, you'll naturally grow and improve. This will bring more happiness and satisfaction in your life. Loving yourself is essential for having good relationships with others and living a fulfilling life.

[divinefem333]

You can't heal in toxic environments.

[succulentsiren]

Learn to challenge the beliefs you grew up with because not everything you’ve been taught is beneficial for you.

Most of us hear things like “Love is supposed to hurt.” or “Success only comes through struggling.” or “You have to be there for family even if they’re toxic.”

This mindset usually comes from people who’ve accepted a life of struggling and defeat.

It’s time to stop letting other people’s beliefs create your reality.

Cleanse your minds of the information that no longer serves you and create new standards that help you thrive.

S.S.